How to fight a false restraining order

So you've been served with a temporary restraining order from a bitter spouse. What you do now is very important. The next steps you take will have a giant impact on your life.

When you get the restraining order, which will probably be served to you by law enforcement, comply with the order. You don't want that wacko who filed the order to get her/his (90% chance it's a woman, nothing against woman, I love woman but it's a fact) way even more. If they falsely hit you with this TRO can you imagine the satisfaction on their face if you violate it and are arrested. Please, comply with the restraining order.

The temporary restraining order will most probably have you removed from your home, you will have to stay away from the person who filed the restraining order and if you have children you will not be able to see them in the mean time until everything gets settled in court. All your personal belongings will also be at that home you were kicked out of so even though you have not committed a crime it can be quite a large punishment.

Many woman will file a false restraining order against their man out of spite just to make his life hard on him. Instead of just breaking up or getting divorced she will make him out to be a domestic abuser. If there are children involved; it is a tactic that is used by many woman for future child custody issues. When the the time comes for child custody issues and if the man has had a restraining order placed on him before then the woman will have quite a edge because the man looks like a violent person.

Anyhow, back to the point at matter here. What do you do to fight that temporary restraining order and not have it turn into a permanent restraining order? Your court date will probably be two or so weeks after you receive the temporary restraining order. You will have to file a written answer to all of the claims against you and file it with the courts before your court date, the sooner the better. Remember here that all those false claims that were written on the TSO might have been highly exaggerated. In many courthouses many woman will get help by feminist groups to help fill out their paperwork. These feminist want the woman to win their cases because the more domestic violence cases there are against woman the more funding these feminist groups will get from the government to help support their causes. These feminist groups could care less about the woman or the families they are helping to destroy. Do you really think they care about the innocent children they are harming in cases where children are involved?

When you go to court make sure you have your story straight and remember that you have to prove that what she has accused you of is false. Yes, the burden may be on the plaintiff to prove what she has said is true but no evidence will be needed from her. Basically it just comes down to who the judge believes. Many times when the judge does not know who's telling the truth and who is lying the judge will just go ahead and file the permanent restraining order and feels that they would rather be safe than sorry. Not fair I know but who ever said life is fair. It's the only type of case there is where no evidence is needed.

Right here is the most important step you will need to take before the court date. GET A LAWYER TO REPRESENT YOU! That's right, GET A LAWYER! Many men may think that since they have not did anything wrong and that since they are telling the whole truth in court that they will win. Especially if the woman has no proof of any wrong doing by the man except for claims that are coming from her mouth. This is a big mistake! If you want the slightest chance of not having that TSO into a permanent restraining order GET A LAWYER! Without a lawyer, you will no win.

Another thing you might want to do is get witnesses that will testify on your behalf on what a good father you are and how you have been involved in your children's lives. People are people and may not always be there for you like you think they would but you might even want to ask them for a written statement and maybe the judge will take those into consideration.

Remember also that the all the woman has to do is try to prove to the judge that she fears for her life from you. It doesn't have to be physical violence, she can just say that you said something or maybe even made a threat against her. Oh yeah, by the way, they will honor verbal abuse too. So all those stupid bickering arguments that you've had (like every couple has had); she can use that against you too. You ever got angry and punched the wall? Ever yelled? Ever been angry? Ever showed any signs of being human? If so, watch out! You may be accused of being a domestic abuser.

The way that restraining orders work are just plain stupid but what are you going to do. Your job is just to protect yourself so what is the most important thing to do? GET THAT LAWYER! Don't try to be cheap and save some money by going at it alone. It will only hurt you in the long run way more.

Here's another interesting fact for you and if you are employed by a law enforcement agency or security field or any other type of job that requires a firearm this will really affect you. When you have a restraining order against you you are barred from owning or carrying any firearm or ammunition. That's right, you face the possibility of losing your job or some other future employment opportunities all because some nut is trying to make your life a living hell.

Please note that there are situations in life where restraining orders are needed and men really are domestic abusers. The whole restraining order thing though has been horrifically abused and something needs to be done about it. To many men have been the victims of women who shoot there venom out at men out of spite.